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  Hi everyone, just signed up here

  by samj in

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  hi, i just signed up.

  i'm 35, i've been baptized 20 years, married 15 years.

  it seems like the wife and i are going in opposite directions spiritually.

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  My Name is of No Consequence

  @ samj:

  Welcome to the forum!

  "It seems like the wife and I are going in opposite directions spiritually."

  You too huh?
  
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  Just a really messed up situation

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

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  a quick summary of my situation: i have known ttatt since at least 2010. my wife and teenage son are still in.

  i only mention that because it is relevant in this situation.

  you can see some of my previous posts for additional details.

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  Thank you all for your comments and suggestions. I have good news. Yesterday, I came home from work and asked him to come with me for a talk. His mother gave little resistance. We went to get some refreshments and had an very enjoyable discussion. He told me that he will get baptized when (and if) he is ready and that no one will pressure him. He understands that to survive in this world you almost have to go to college. He said that that will be his focus. He also acknowledged that there have been many changes in the last few years with the org. (Wow! He is only in his teens and understands that!)

  All of this was relief to hear. He is a bright, charismatic boy and I don't want those qualities to go to waste. I don't want him to EVER get baptized. I reminded him that he is my only child and that I love him. I want the best for him and I do not want him to make the mistakes that I did. I can't stop him from getting baptized if that's what he wants to do at some point. But, for now, it seems that he has other priorities.
  
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  Just a really messed up situation

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  a quick summary of my situation: i have known ttatt since at least 2010. my wife and teenage son are still in.

  i only mention that because it is relevant in this situation.

  you can see some of my previous posts for additional details.

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  It is my understanding that when he goes off to college, everything is on the table.
  
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  Just a really messed up situation

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  a quick summary of my situation: i have known ttatt since at least 2010. my wife and teenage son are still in.

  i only mention that because it is relevant in this situation.

  you can see some of my previous posts for additional details.

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  I have a relationship with my son. That is one of the few good things that has come out of this marriage. I love him; he is my only child, stepchild or otherwise. It could be so much more if she was just reasonable.
  
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  Just a really messed up situation

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  a quick summary of my situation: i have known ttatt since at least 2010. my wife and teenage son are still in.

  i only mention that because it is relevant in this situation.

  you can see some of my previous posts for additional details.

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  You better believe that I am paying for everything. She has a good job. She says that there is more to being a father and husband. I agree, but I don't get any credit. If I would become "spiritual" again, most of this goes away. That's not gonna happen.
  
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  Just a really messed up situation

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  a quick summary of my situation: i have known ttatt since at least 2010. my wife and teenage son are still in.

  i only mention that because it is relevant in this situation.

  you can see some of my previous posts for additional details.

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  Every time I raise an objection or disagree with how she goes about raising him, it is usually disregarded. She is raising him as if he doesn’t have a father. She has threatened to record me the next time I get upset and put me on YouTube. You can’t make this stuff up.
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  Just a really messed up situation

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  a quick summary of my situation: i have known ttatt since at least 2010. my wife and teenage son are still in.

  i only mention that because it is relevant in this situation.

  you can see some of my previous posts for additional details.

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  A quick summary of my situation: I have known TTATT since at least 2010. My wife and teenage son are still in. (He is my step-son. I only mention that because it is relevant in this situation. You can see some of my previous posts for additional details.) Things have not been going well at home. My wife and I have not slept in the same room for at least 6 months. We can’t have a conversation without getting into an argument, so typically we don’t talk.

  My son is unbaptized, but is working toward baptism. However, he has “worldly” associates and a possible girlfriend. I told him that I want to talk to him in private when his mother is not around. I just want to see where he is with everything. His mother will not let me talk to him in private for fear that I will turn him to apostasy (yeah, I know). Yet she will sit in her car with him and talk to him so I can’t hear their conversation.

  I just want to tell my son that you can’t work towards baptism and have friends who are not in the org. It seems that no one else is telling him this. Since I am a step-father, I have no parental rights and she uses that to her advantage. The elders know this, but they don’t seem to care. Let me be perfectly clear: I don’t want him to get baptized at all. But my fear is that he will get baptized and then get reproved or worse because of his friends. They’re not bad kids at all, but they’re “unbelievers”.

  It is just a really messed up situation. My wife is not allowing me to talk to my son. I have no legal standing and very few people to talk to about it.

  Any suggestions?
  
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  1930s Vertical Phonograph for Bethelites and Pioneers- of passing interest.

  by Balaamsass2 in

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  just thought this might be of passing interest to a few members.

  we were unpacking some estate items from a 1930s bethelite and were confounded by his vertical phonograph.

  lots of old rutherford books, and some trashed rutherford records, but the phonograph was something to behold.

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  I seen one of those Rutherford era phonographs sell for several hundred dollars online. That dude is still getting over on people!
  
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  Yet another RBC liquidation

  by Darkknight757 in

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  i've posted these before but this one looks more "official".. .

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  My Name is of No Consequence

  Money, money, money.
  
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  JWs in denial, so sad

  by Simon in

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  2. beliefs

  i had a couple of jw sisters call at my door today.. they started with the bizarre "can we read you a scripture" and read about "death being no more" and asked what i thought of that.. i said it sounded like a mix of disney and dumb.. they then launched into how god was going to put an end to death and wasn't that wonderful?.

  i said it would have been more wonderful if he'd not created death in the first place.. they thought man created death by disobeying so i questioned why god couldn't have just forgiven them.

  apparently "because he loves us" is supposed to be a satisfactory answer to why he kills us.. i asked how loving it was to kill hundreds of thousands of children in tsunami's, disease and so on.. at this point, they gave up on the 'god is love' and switched to the bible being true no matter what because it was an old book and moses had written the first chapter (says the book).. when i suggested it really wasn't that old and that most of the bible myths were copies of older stories from before it was written they questioned if i studied the bible and theology.. then i told them i was brought up as a jw so knew it was all crap.. now it was game on, they immediately switched to play defence questioning why i'd left (and i think they'd already taken a step back away from "the evil" obviously emanating from me).. not much time to say much before they cut and run so i told them i'd left because i found out it was all based on lies and that the watchtower was corrupt and covered up things like child abuse.. oh no, you're thinking of the catholics one of them said (some disdain in how she said "catholics" as though "we're so much better than them").. "well, i challenge you to do a search for the australian royal commission and you'll see the testimony the watchtower leaders gave and the damning evidence that they covered up abuse and reported none of it to the police.".

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  I said it sounded like a mix of Disney and dumb.

  Haha! I have to use that line.